I’m sorry, but you will not be continuing in our competition.  Please go to your room (or return to the house) and immediately pack your belongings and go home!

When did going home take on a new meaning of anxiety- filled, resentment, failure and down right the “worse thing you can say to someone on t.v.”? Every day there are hundreds of new reality televisions shows being reviewed for pilot status and the lucky ones eventually end up on our televisions every evening for a scheduled cycle anywhere between 8-13 weeks/episodes.  That is not forgetting the live previews of the show show and tons of trailers, the actual episode shows and then a preview of the reunion show and then the reunion. Let’s face it, reality television is popular television and the current and future generations settle and enjoy this creative lack luster form of cheap entertainment.

I, too am guilty of also belonging to this group, as I have my favorites. I have seen just about every Keeping Up With The Kardashians, Project Runway, Top Chef and my long time fav A.N.T.M. because who doesn’t love more Tyra Banks than we can handle ?

The focus of this post is the horrific and detrimental effect that the declaration “sorry, but you have to pack your things and go home” has on the state of mind of hundreds of reality television contestants and the millions of viewers. Unsure of what I am talking about?  Not quite following?  Well, Well, Well, let’s carry out a simple experiment.  Take an evening to watch at least 2-3 reality television contests shows and pay close attention to the judges, contestants and special guest react to disqualification and competition.

While watching ask yourself what do you think about going home, is it that awful? Is the realization of having to leave a place of fun, strangers, probably loads of liquor, free love and contest for something familiar, comfortable and memory filled that bad? Is going home that bad of an act? What is the message that these shows give to the youth about competition, disqualification and contest?

I don’t know about you but I enjoy and love my home. In fact, I enjoy spending as much time in my home as possible. I also love to have others tell me to go home, for instance by my boss at work on those days we go in but know we should’ve stayed in bed. Well, the words “im so sorry but you have to go home, you won’t be here until the end of the day” are like music to my ears.  If I were to be somehow be crazy enough to find myself on a reality television show, moreso and competitive one, I hope that I have a sense of humor and can stand there and bear the shame of loserdom with the rest of reality television show losers.

So why are reality television show contestants and their show writers so hung up on the idea of “going home”, sending folks home on a one way ticket? Is it a spin on one’s pride to face the reality of having to go home not a winner? The idea of having to return back to the place where everyone knows you, believed and bragged about you making it on the show in the first place to win that grand final prize is not worthy of all the personal degradation, exploitation and ferocious emotional interactions for 10 weeks. I guess it is all worth it unless you are rejected, kicked out of the house and told “you have to pack up your things and go home immediately”.

Good Luck and onwards to the next, new reality contest television show!

-CamilleCares

In case you were part of the crowd of people who have yet to view this video, I have posted it for your viewing pleasure.   A really good buddy of mine put this together with his comedy troupe.  Please check it out and let me know what you think.

Akon calls T-Pain

These days why does it seem to be the case that more and more children and young adults suffer from asthma? If you are like me then maybe you do not suffer from asthma but you have possibly 1,2,3 or more family members that do. When it is time to head out, the roll call sounds off including, inhalers for this one, benadryl for the other.  And then upon return, nebulizer sessions for him and her.

Every where I turn, I see people working hard to for their next breath. As non-sufferers we have a right to show our support for better treatment and care for those in the world who do have asthma. Some things in life are that easy.

Asthma can be treated and through support we can all make a difference.

Take a moment to join me in my efforts to walk in the NYC Asthma Walk 2008 and…….DONATE….to my team’s mission in supporting The American Lung Association NYC Asthma Walk 2008. Go Team!

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CamilleCares will Walk

From- The Cocoa Lounge

Harlem births yet another— RockstarTeyanna

This isn’t the 1st time we heard about this, hot, young first lady of the NERD camp. check out her new hit

GOOGLE ME…..

We have of course….seen her fabulous Sweet 16 on the show “Super Sweet 16″. Who is she?

She is a Harlem artist signed to Pharell’s label….Star Trak!!

Of course when you work with someone like Pharell…your swagger has to be exclusive…, hopefully Lil’ Mama isn’t afraid of any competition; because Teyanna Taylor has quoted herself as the “Princess Of Harlem”. The voice of the young people crown may be stolen, Lil’ Mama…..

They finally got MARRIED!!!!

Its BONNIE & CLYDE, YOUNG B & HOVA, MS. DEREON & MR. ROC-A-FELLA….

Now we all knew they would get married.

But Not like this..in a private manner

Who knows maybe kids will be on the way soon!!!!!!????!!!!!!!!

Jus kidding lets not get carried away. Marriage is a big step on the whole, much more being

a celebrity closing the deal.

It was said that they got a marriage liscense in upstate New York. The law is that a marriage liscense is only valid for 60 days. Beyonce and Jay-z married two days after the liscense was issued, talk about not wasting time. They supposedly got married in Jay-z’s COBBLE HILL apartment by the prominade, but you know your girl got the inside scoop, which says that the Brooklyn location was just a throw off from the real condo location in Tribeca, NYC!

 Gossip and rumors show pictures of orchids were being delivered to Jay-z’s penthouse and a tent was said to be set up on top of his balcony.

However there is no actual proof of them being married.

So people tell us what you think of this?????

Congratulations!

Selfish

Merriam-Webster’s Online dictionary defines selfish as:

being concerned excessively and exclusively with oneself; seeking or concentrating on ones own advantage, pleasure or well being without regard for others.

and defines a selfish act as:

arising from concern with ones own welfare or advantage in disregard for others.

Is the act of having children selfish? Are we simply creating a being that will love us infinitely, because they come into this world knowing no better than their parents? Do all people consider all of their options during the decision to become a parent? I guess this can be taken into the world of abortion and the pro-life debate, but somehow I want to say that yes, we do have the choice in many countries and states to choose to terminate a pregnancy. I am not here to discuss my opinions on the debate. However, I am here to discuss with you the deeper feelings people contrive through their lives which result in their parenting decisions. Firstly, their decision to become a parent whenever it takes place.Do you know what it means to become a parent? Maybe you are a parent and believe you know what it means? You may have it all figured out and lead the paths to perfect children, but is most cases parenting is difficult. I always think of it like the theory of punishment, in that if it is not carried out and enforced with the most precise and adequate discretion’s, it is a failure and not successful in it’s attempts. For example, parents of serial killers or child murders, rapist, thieves, embezzlement, and all other white collar crimes, where hard working folks pay the buck for the nonsense. Seriously did those parents fail on the parenting test? Did they give their all and tried their hardest to raise their children? Was something missing? Were these parents selfish or selfless?

From what I have had a chance to notice in my short existence, parents have it hard and don’t have the time of day to think about sh$t, especially when it takes too much time. They have to work, be mothers, fathers, teachers, doctors, bus drivers, fast-food order takers, gasoline pumpers, hw checkers, report card, gas, electric, cable, water, land tax, insurance, car note, school fees, loan, and just for good ole fun credit card bill recipients. What we need to realize is that parents are people too. They have the same demands that life throw at us if not triple fold, as they may have a spouse and definitely a child, two or three?

Excuse the dollar sign, but let’s be real, when people find out, yes, find out, most folks do not plan to have children, unlike what some of you may think. Yes, where were we, when two adults find out that they are expecting a baby, only God knows what each individual is thinking as well as feeling and I say that because half of the time, I do not think the people themselves recognize the severity of their actions which have resulted in a brand new life.

Okay, people I am not trying to get all religious-esque in this posting, but do we really think about everything? Do humans really use that God giving mind of reason and wit to systematically ruminate and consider what this is going to mean to the rest of their lives, that now from that day forward they will be responsible for the birthing, development, education, nutrition, financial deficits, and goals of a new life in this world.

Selflessness

Merriam Webster defines selflessness as: having no concern for self.

Do you think parents are taking the all mighty selflessness step when laying down to produce? I’m gonna go with a hell no! What do you think? Some agree that having a child is the most selfless act one can commit. Understanding that from this day forward you will be taking care of someone else, you no longer wish to put yourself first. Hmm don’t believe me read on. When it some to sex and relationships some may think argue that all selflessness and no selfishness is a lousy relationship. (E.Keller, PhD, 02)

I like to think that when it comes to deciding to have or realizing that you are expecting to bring a child into the world, we as humans go through a process of growth just like all others times in our lives when a first time, life changing event takes place. I do not have children and can’t speak for parents. I speak from the offspring perspective as I am only a daughter and not a mother or aunt. I want to believe that as humans we are excited and welcome the new life to the world recognizing all forms of responsibilities that lie ahead.

I also would like to think that those who are unable to produce or experience difficulties and or even give their life to create a life do put in the time to weigh all options and resources when deciding to have children. Maybe it is the selfish ones who are given natural reproduction rights and abilities that give less thought? Maybe it is a bit of both? Maybe those who plan for their children and those who just get pregnant enjoy the prenatal, late months, birth and development stages of babies, parent are in a loving, long term, stable relationship and are ready parents to be. They enjoy the idea of being a parent, and welcome their new baby into their lives and transform their lifestyle for this new person. Selfish or selfless?

But what about those who can not have children and choose to not adopt or those that do adopt, are they more selfless than our aforementioned parents? The human decision to reproduce is a cliche in itself, as most people do not plan or make the decision, they have sex and then comes the baby. What about those who do take the time to have control each detail for their new baby-from conception to college dorm room - choosing to decide to have children may be a bit more selfish on their timing and controlling tendencies? Are they any different from the selfless, only wanting to give of themselves and never thinking of themselves as more than parents, parents?

As always I am interested in what you think about this post. Is the act of having children a selfish or selfless one?

-CamilleCares

Hungry and can’t decide where to eat tonight?

It’s almost spring time here in the city so here’s your chance to try out that sorta pricey restaurant your always wanted to try. Check out the Brooklyn restaurant week participants and enjoy. You can’t go wrong!

Click here and be minutes away from Getting Your Grub On!

Camille Cares Suggested Spots to Dine

The River Cafe- 1 Water Street

The Atlantic Chip Shop- 129 Atlantic Avenue

Mojito Cuban Cuisine- 82 Washington Avenue

Rice- 81 Washington Street

Scopello Ristorante Bar- 63 Lafayette Avenue

Sante Fe Grill- 62 7th Avenue

Sotto Voce- 225 7th Avenue

I enjoy dining at many spots in Brooklyn, but the list above comprises some of my personal favorites and go to spots for good old city living satiation and imbibing.

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Always down with the refugeessss. 

Silda Spitzer

Stupid or Loyal? You decide.

Readers I call on you to decide. Leave a comment or two letting us know what you think is really going down inside Silda Spitzer’s head. In observance of Women’s History month I feel it is only right to dedicate an entire post to the recent sex scandal that corrupts modern day politics to show America, just how much BS women put up with during their marriage. I am a strong believer in the statement, “behind every strong woman is a very supportive husband” and vice versa.

But even more intricate and to the point of today’s post is the role played by the first ladies. Should Silda leave Eliot? Should she publicly defame his name? Or should she stand by his side, show her support and loyalty to the man she calls her husband? Understanding that the man she took sacred vows with took it upon himself to bury her name and public image with his poor choices. But, I am not here to discuss his lies, his prostitution get-aways, as that debate dates back to the beginning of time, when women realized that men will pay any sum of cash to delight in a strange women’s fun dip. I am also not here to discuss if his actions are wrong. Of course they are!!!! hello, anyone out there? Eliot knows he is wrong and Silda for sure knows how much she truly can’t stand to look in his face. Disgust is usually the emotion that sums it up.

Anytime a married man steps out on his wife it is illegal, check your marriage license detail for Adultery and let me know what it says. Do Not Pass Go, do Not collect $200 if you cheat on your loved one. In fact, in divorce court your ass is on the line, hi and dry.

Anytime a committed man steps out on his significant other it is a tear at the foundation of trust and love. Many times after adultery has been committed people remain in the relationship and many times people walk, as they believe in “once a cheater, always a cheater” rule.

In all cases I think it is important to figure out why, when and how did all things happen? From the beginning, why did the cheater believe that going outside the relationship would be beneficial to them? Why did the cheater decide to the throw away or say goodbye to the relationship they were currently committed to? I would want to know if Silda knew about the prostitution? Most women in Silda’s case sense the lies and know whats going down, some just don’t act on it. Others act immediately and take full steps to move on with their lives. But I ask, how easy is it to move on realistically, when all of your life has been woven into this man’s life that you now call your family?

It is also important to know what is at stake, what can be lost and never replaced? Most of the times it is the intangible things like, trust and true unscathed, untainted gullible love that mean that most. Finance is always a true ringer in one’s decisions to walk or stay, but sometimes not the only. Remember time is something that will always go forward and can never be taken back. Hurt is something that can be soothed but actions that take place in any given space and time, occur and usually if held under the sheets, will surely come out into the light on good day. One has to have walked on both sides of the issue to really understand the boundaries. A lot of times things take place without true rumination and going back in time is all that we ask. At this point in this post I would like to take the time to say sorry to any and all I have ever hurt in this wild game we play called love, not that I have committed an Eliot Spitzer, but I do know what it means to be the cheated on and cheater and neither is a walk in the park.

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